Samuel Johnson, a famous British author from the 18th century, had it right. We, especially in America, I think, are so worried about everybody being happy and fulfilled while at the same time we, as bosses are afraid of confrontation, that we can often go down the path of praising everybody regardless...regardless of results, regardless of effort, regardless of attitude.
Now, don't get me wrong. I'm a strong believer in improving the lives of the people around me, but every one of us has the responsibility to do the best job we can do...all the time. If we don't do our best, our bosses have the right, no -- RESPONSIBILITY, to let us know and help us get back on track.
Some of us seem to think, as leaders, that taking care of our people means making them feel wonderful all the time. I challenge all leaders to look at taking care of their people along the lines of...
~teaching them good habits, like how to be efficient and effective...all in the framework of strengthening the group or organization, which makes us all better, AND can help your team members feel empowered, get promoted, and make more money (and maybe you, too, for being such an awesome boss).
~helping them learn new skills and activities that will help them grow in their jobs
~developing their thought processes and characteristics to move their careers forward and achieve greater successes
Praise thoughtfully and judiciously...it's really the fair way, isn't it?