There's really nothing new to be said...

Is there? Is there anything new to be said about any of the topics I like to talk about: Leadership, Coaching, Service?

There have been brilliant minds throughout history that have thought and written and spoken about all these topics. True, the ideas have probably been refined and realigned as civilization has done the same. Still, have any new revelations surfaced recently, at least in our lifetime?

I don't think so.

So, how come we spend SO MUCH time on these subjects? We still write books, and give lectures and have workshops. Why?

Is it because, except for a few very rare people, leadership, coaching, and service are learned skills? Is it that with every new generation of humans coming into the world, we have to start them at the beginning?

Maybe it's that leadership and coaching and service have to be taught just like a child learning to tie his shoes, or a little kid learning how to ride her bike.

I guess we just rebadge and repackage based on current reality, on current society, on current culture. Because, deep down, we humans may be basically decent, but we're inherently self-centered and leadership, coaching, and service, if performed properly, are each about others, about advancing other people.

Advanced as we've become as a human race, we still have to start over with every generation, with every new person.

A new generation is coming and we need to get back at it.

Service is Important, but Don't be a Service Nazi

I was at dinner with my son on Saturday evening. We went to a local restaurant where we hadn't eaten in a while.

The restaurant was fairly empty and we were seated pretty fast. Then, however, it took a couple of minutes for our server to start with us and that didn't make any sense because things seemed quiet. I started getting a little irritated and said, "if we get to 5 minutes of waiting, we're out of here"; my son said, "Calm down. We're not in a rush and everything is fine." Turns out he was right. Once our server got to us (about a minute later) he gave us great service and our food was pretty good, too.

I've spent a lot of the last few years being a fanatic about service, about wowing the customer and working to give them a world-class experience.

The downside is that I can often be looking for what's wrong. I remember asking a doctor one time why he was always so negative and he told me, "because I've been taught to look for what's wrong". I think this may have been happening to me some lately. I've been looking so hard for someone to either wow me...or conversely to piss me off (and the "piss me off" part of the chart is way bigger than the "wow me" part), that I am sometimes forgetting to relax and let things be ok.

Service is important...in fact, it's very important. Still, we have to keep things in perspective and we don't have to be evil, pissy Nazis about service.

Again, we have to think about what's reasonable.

Enjoy your dinner.

Could They Perform if Their Lives Depended on it?

I was recently reading an article in the Great Leadership blog: "Managing 'Bad Apples' is Key to Productivity" and enjoying the comments as well as the article. It reminded me of what I had discussed as part of my series on coaching back in June: Everyday Coaching, Part I:, Definition, Purpose, and Application.

In this first part of the series, I reflected on the thoughts of Drs. Lois Frankel and Karen Otazo who wrote:

"Could this employee do the job if his or her life depended on it?"

If the answer is "no", then you need to train your employee.

If the answer is "yes", then someone has an attitude problem and coaching might be a great way to help fix that problem.

When we start thinking about employees and how they're performing (and maybe whether any of them are "bad apples"), we need to understand our role in their performance and ensure we're setting them up for success.

If there's an issue, we need to ask ourselves the question above and either train or coach to resolve the issue. We also MUST ensure our employee knows what is expected of him or her. How can he or she perform, if the expectations aren't clear?

I'm sure there are "bad apples" out in the business world, but we need to ensure we've done everything possible to help our employee succeed before we stick him or her with that label.

When do we know our leadership is working?

I assume that all leaders want to be really excellent leaders. That's a great goal, isn't it? Hopefully we all work hard to be really excellent.

So then, how do we know when we are excellent? What's the test of successful leadership?

It's that our people flourish.

If our people grow and develop and flourish under our leadership, we are excellent leaders.

Why Can't Service Be More Fun?

I struggle with this one. I talk a lot about service, about world-class customer service, about some ways to provide this often elusive commodity, about being a servant leader.

You'd think it would be something ingrained in my life. Hmmmm.

The thing is, if we truly believe service and being a service-minded individual is of great importance, how come it is sometimes so hard to provide? How come I dislike doing it...not always, but definitely part of the time?

I think my problem may be that I have decided to be a judge. I sometimes seem to decide who deserves great service from me and who doesn't...who's "earned" it and who hasn't. Of course, some service is provided as a part of my job, but during those times am I really being service-minded or just going through the motions because it's a requirement?

Whew. I know all the right words to say and all the right things to do, but sometimes I've made service all about me and what I feel like and what I want to do. Sometimes I relegate service to others as just another "function" I complete and there's either no thought or, even worse, negative thought attached.

Providing outstanding service to my fellow human beings can't just be based on what's fun or what I feel like at the moment or if I think someone is worthy or not. Can it?

Being "service-minded" should mean that I have service in mind when I carry on my activities. So here's my question: Is it OK to provide service for others when I don't think they deserve it, when I don't feel like doing it, or when it's not fun....or even when I don't perceive any personal gain for me?

It seems that providing the best service possible is good to do when I'm not in the right frame of mind, but it's much more desirable and frankly much easier to do (with a much more positive result) when my heart is in it.

I guess "service as a way of life" must mean that it's so ingrained in a person that they just provide great service for others whether thought is involved or not. Still, if I act with a service-minded spirit, it's got to be a better experience for the person receiving my service and for me.

Definitely a struggle. I need to think more about this, but not get in the way of doing the right thing while I'm still trying to figure it out.

The Leadership style of Ghengis K, Adolf H, Mickey M

What in the world? This post is kind of a follow up to yesterday's regarding leadership and blogging (did I really write something that dumb?).

Did you realize that on this wonderful internet of ours, you can find posts and articles about the leadership styles of Adolf Hitler and Ghengis Khan all the way through to Mickey Mouse and Mother Teresa? It's incredible. Go ahead...I dare you...type in the name of someone famous, nice or notorious and add "leadership style" along with it in the search bar. Chances are you'll come up with something.

I know there are plenty of us out there who think we have something profound to share about leadership. I know I do...but I could be wrong. It could be that all my words are a bunch of gobbledygook. We've all got opinions of who were good leaders or bad and who showed great leadership traits when others showed very poor ones. If you look hard enough you'll find something to support what you're looking to find.

My take...since I do, of course, think I have something profound to share about leadership...is to read A LOT and observe A LOT and think A LOT. Use your brain to think about what's reasonable. Don't turn your back on any potential lesson. There's plenty of opportunity to see examples of great leadership in rotten people and horrible leadership in wonderful people. Just try what works for you. Be open-minded and ever-seeking. When you think you've got it all down, then you'll know you need to put your ego in your back pocket and keep looking for ways to improve.

That's a leadership thought from....me.

Leadership is like Blogging?

Huh? What the what?

How in the world is there any connection, you ask? Well, I like to Stumble, you know "StumbleUpon"? You click on a button in your browser and it takes you to a random web site. If you want you can choose just to "stumble" through Blogspot blog sites. There are tons of these sites out there. Some of them are similar and some of them are as different as can be. Some of them are pretty good and some of them just plain stink.

To me, that's how you can look at different types of leadership. There's no one specific way to lead because people are involved. In my last job, when patients would ask about their surgical outcomes, I would often say that if the laser was being used on a piece of plastic, we'd pretty much get the same result every time. But since we used the laser on people, while you could predict the outcome, it was never so certain because of the ways the patients responded to the treatment.

So are there any rules for good solid leadership? I think so:

1. Know your people.
2. Be respectful of everyone and treat each person as an individual.
3. Treat everyone fairly.
4. Look for ways to help others grow.
5. Communicate, communicate, communicate.
6. Work on an empathetic spirit.
7. Set reasonable expectations.

I think, -- me, my own opinion here -- if you work on the items above then your leadership will emerge...your own individual style of leadership that you hopefully tailor to the team or people you're responsible for.